Teaching girls to have a positive self esteem is so important. I remember when I was a teen, and I always thought that I was too _____. Obviously, the thing that filledin the blank was always changing based on my perception of what was perfect. Sometimes, in my mind, I was too short. Sometimes I was too fat. Other times I was too plain. Still others I was too clumsy. On really bad days, I was all 4 and thought I was so imperfect that I thought no one even liked me or cared about me. Self esteem LIES have to stop.
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Parenting My Daughter
My daughter is always giving me lessons in self esteem. I guess some of what I’m doing as a parent is sticking – at least for now. You see, she is such a sweet girl that she boosts my self esteem. The other day, I asked her if I looked good when I was on my way out to an event. She said that, yes, I did look great, but that it’s really not about looks. Another time recently, she told me that I don’t wear makeup very often. I told her that she’s correct and I just like to look like me. She nodded in complete understanding and told me that I look great with makeup or without makeup.
I’m hoping that her words are transferring over to herself, too. My daughter is just 8, but there have been numerous times when I’ve heard neighborhood kids bully her or say something that seemed to stick. For example, she was really impressed by the girls that told her that she looked like she could be 10. She was not so impressed by the kids that told her she was too skinny.
For now, she is a strong fighter. She is self-assured, mostly confident, and pretty open to just being herself. She is unique and proud of it.
Boosting Girls Self Esteem: Statistics and What YOU Can Do to Help
Over 60% of girls avoid certain activities because they feel bad about their looks.
• 19 % won’t try out for a team or club
• 23 % won’t go to the beach or pool
• 13 % won’t give an opinion
• 15 % won’t go to school
(‘The Real Truth About Beauty –
Revisited’, Dove Global study, 2010)
Looking at magazines for just 60 minutes
lowers the self-esteem of over 80% of girls
(Dr. Raj Persaud, Consultant Psychiatrist,
Dove® has compiled self-esteem statistics (including these), as well as great activity ideas and projects for parents, teachers, mentors, and youth leaders to do with one girl or a group of girls. Check out Dove Self-Esteem Toolkit. On that site, you can even customize the information you receive based on the girl’s age, your role, how many girls you will be working with, and different self-esteem topics!
I love the 1-on-1 Activities for Girls, Ages 8-12. There are excellent ideas that are super easy and all about having fun and spending time together in a positive way.
Moms, why not host a “Just Us Girls” night with your daughter?
In the same way that eating dinner together each night brings a family closer, spending even one hour one on one with your daughter can boost her self-esteem significantly. Moms are such a big influencer on their daughters. No pressure, but this is where we, as mothers, should be making a really good impression upon our sweet girls.
Kroger & the Dove® Self-Esteem Project
Kroger is working together with the Dove® Self-Esteem Project to help reach more than 15 million girls with self-esteem building programs by 2015. They have reached 11 million so far. Every purchase of Dove® products at Kroger will help girls around the US to reach their full potential and truly feel good about themselves!
What are YOU doing to create some unstoppable girls? Tweet this and answer it: “Girls are unstoppable when…#GirlsUnstoppable” and connect with others on the same mission!
It would be incredible to create a generation of girls that look into a mirror and are pleased with what they see. After all, looks are such a small piece of the puzzle. Who each individual is as a person is so much deeper than appearance. Even so, all girls deserve to feel beautiful and special.
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