So someone emailed me and asked how I was planning to take care of myself this year. I believe this was prompted by a discussion we’d had in which I talked about how I feel like I’m out of touch with myself as a *woman* these days.
Honestly, some days I forget what it’s like to be “me”. Let me explain – it’s not that I resent or regret or reject that my role in this house is as a MOTHER. In fact, I will say that my marriage DOES come first, then being a mom….but being a mom takes up so much more of my time on a regular basis. My children NEED me. My kids are still little (5, almost 4, 15 months) and truly cannot function in many ways without my assistance. It’s kind of exhausting.
In living this life, I’ve had to take a step back and say, “Hey, wait a minute! You need to put YOU in that list!!” I definitely need to spend more time on my marriage. My dear, sweet husband is soft spoken and rarely tells me when he needs some attention. (This doesn’t mean that he acts angelic – I’m a nag, I’ll admit it… so we do communicate.. and he does get attention… just not always the positive kind. I’m working on it!) I need to make sure that I am a better wife. I need to learn to hold my tongue and to relax a little. I want to figure out what his and my love languages are and work with that.
However, back to ME. 🙂 I really need to focus on myself a little bit here. I get so wrapped up in being the mom and wife and Director of All Things In My House that I forget about myself. Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of time online and with friends… but I rarely just spend time *alone*. Want to hear something sad? On January 1st, I went to Target and bought myself some new bras and undies for the first time in YEARS.  Yes, years.  Probably around 4 of them.  Why hadn’t *that* made the list sooner?!  I’ll tell you why – because I always feel guilty when if comes to buying things like that for myself.  I feel guilty when doing a lot of things for myself.  I need to get over it.
This leads me to my 3 “resolutions” for the year..
1. Lose 20 lbs.
I’m going to be a better wife and a better mom if I care enough about myself to get back down to a healthy weight.  Right before I got pregnant with my 3rd kiddo, I lost about 30 lbs and got down to my high school weight and size.  I was fit and felt great.  I had tons of energy.  These were the happiest times of my life. 😉  I want to get back to that and it’s entirely attainable.  I deserve it.
2. Read 52 books (in 52 weeks).
This forces me to have time alone and away from the computer.  I usually read while taking a hot bath, so it will also be a good way to relax after working out. 😉
3. Be a better homeschooling mom.
Okay, on the surface this sounds like doing something for someone else (namely my children), but you have to understand… I am in NO WAY a schedule person. Â I hate it. Â Dread it. Â I’m bad at it… Basically, I need to work at it. Â I am going to try to force myself into an actual schedule. Â The homeschooling will fit in nicely and I’m sure I”ll feel less frazzled knowing that my life has an x, y, z coming up rather than knowing one thing – that I’m forgetting something. haha
So maybe this year my REAL resolution is to take care of me and not feel guilty.
What are some things that you are doing to take care of YOU this year? Â Do you often feel guilty, like I do, for doing things for yourself? Â How should we overcome that? Â How have you?
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I’m not a mum, but I know exactly how my mum feels when she wants to get things for herself and can’t because everyone else wants something =/
This year I really want to work on the relationship I have with my mum and hope to be husband. Since we’re planning to have a baby soon, I want to be able to have some time for studies and everything else. Hope you can achieve your goals this year. I’m hoping to read some books for a book challenge I recently picked up!
Leanna
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